Advice from Jenn
Jenn Stull
Issue date: 3/19/10 Section: Life & Times
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While that may be standard of any sort of isolated environment, especially the small liberal arts college that Rollins is, I think most students here can agree that we play by our own rules. The problem is that it's nearly impossible to win if you do not know how to play the game.
Firstly, the dating scene at Rollins is nearly nonexistent. Instead of making the most of the luscious, romantic scene Rollins naturally provides with its Mediterranean style architecture situated on a lake, it has become socially acceptable to "hook-up."Meet a guy or a girl down at Roxy, dance the night away, and it is a pretty safe bet to guess what will happen when you get back to your cozy single room with your tiny twin-size bed.
I assume that everyone knows the definition of the term hook up, but in case you have been living in a cave for the past few years without access to Gossip Girl or Jersey Shore, let me break it down for you. Urban Dictionary defines hooking up as: "Purposely ambiguous. Equivocal word used to describe almost any sexual act. Usually used to exaggerate exactly what happened. A hook up can range from a make out session to fullout sex."
Don't get immediately angry and say, "Hey, I'm in a relationship at Rollins! Where does this girl get off saying we only hook up?"
Well, it seems the majority of Rollins relationships behave in the manner of old married couples who isolate themselves from the Rollins culture all together so…you tell me which is worse. Whenever they do come out it is for their early dinner or for their nightly stroll hand in hand.
If you do not think you fall into either of these categories of relationship, you are probably delusional. However, I am not a complete pessimist, so if there is a functional couple out there on our campus then thanks for giving faith to the rest of us!
Now that I'm on a tangent, why it is that friends always seem to take the backseat when others get into a relationship? Relationships make single people feel like they have an extremely contagious disease because suddenly no one wants to hang out with them! I believe there is a balance.
Obviously time needs to be distributed amongst everyone, but there is a time to have a night out with the boys or girls and a night out with your significant other. Yes, I know that we are all getting older and anyone we date now may be a "potential spouse," but try and keep it real and not alienate yourself from those who were important to you in your single life. And to all my single ladies and lads, make the most of your independence while you still have it.
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